I HAD the radio on - they played a Chris Brown track (convicted of domestic violence) followed by an R Kelly song (allegedly married a 15-year-old) - when the news aired that footballer Ched Evans is training with his former teammates.
Evans, a convicted rapist, denies his crime and apologises only for infidelity. Despite calls for him to be barred from returning to Sheffield United, Greg Dyke, chairman of the Football Association, said on BBC's Newsnight that the situation was "not an important issue".
A minority of men involved in football have a problem with women but the men who speak loudly about the sport do nothing to influence this minority towards a position of respect for women. BBC pundit Tam Cowan caused an uproar last year after implicitly calling female footballers "little snatches". He thought he was pitching to his audience.
On our website HeraldScotland, fellow football pundit Graham Spiers, in high anticipation of a forthcoming Old Firm match, pointed out, rightly, that there is a spike in domestic violence when the rivals clash. He said "moral guardians" were warning that "a few wives/women are set to take a few blows," a rather over-simplistic view of the reality of domestic violence. He followed that with: "The fixture can attract everything that is primeval or bad in west of Scotland man. Well, hurry up and bring it on."
From football to television: Dapper Laughs, the nom de guerre of comedian Daniel O'Reilly, built up a grassroots following on the internet by espousing the views of "ordinary blokes". On social media, Dapper posts videos of himself shouting sexual comments at women in the street and filming their reaction. Don't be confused. This is not harassment, it is just banter. Banter ordinary blokes like.
Based on his obvious prowess with the ladies, Dapper was given his own ITV dating show (Advice: "If she cries, she's just playing hard to get"). He likes to joke about beating his girlfriend. An ITV spokesman said: "Comedy is subjective."
Finally, after being filmed making a rape joke at a stand-up gig ("I kind of got a little bit carried away"), ITV said it would not commission Dapper Laughs: On the Pull for a second series.
Called to defend himself on BBC Newsnight, O'Reilly said: "I'm taking the mick out of what I think men think."
Also prospering from what he thinks men think is dating coach Julien Blanc. Mr Blanc was forced to creep from Australia after feminist groups convinced the immigration ministry to revoke his visa.
He now wants to come here. A petition, signed by some 105,000 people at last count, is trying to stop him bringing his global tour, teaching men the skills of the Pick Up Artist (PUA), to Britain. In his boot camps, Mr Blanc teaches men how to push at women's boundaries, using psychological tricks and persistence. A common technique for the PUA is "negging". The PUA will not-so-subtly undermine your choices, your opinions and your appearance then pester you to go home with him.
Truly, it has been a bad week for men. I'm embarrassed on behalf of gentlemen everywhere that these chaps think they have a handle on what their fellow men want to hear - from the tasteless, tactless, comments of Mr Spiers to the sheer, unsheathed misogyny of Dapper Laughs.
These boys, all, speak to small men who cannot cope with their own jealousies, insecurities and frustrations. If I was a man I'd be a walking sack of sadness by now, ashamed my gender is represented by anything so reprehensible.
And I wonder what men are going to do about it.
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